We hurt. All of us at some time or the other.
When relationships break down, when those we love turn their backs and walk away, it leaves a wound that seems to never heal. This pain isn’t just an emotional ache; it’s a deep, visceral hurt that can linger for years. We hurt not only because of the loss but also because of the way things fell apart.
The pain of a broken relationship can feel insurmountable. It follows us in our daily lives, creeping into moments of solitude and silence. We replay conversations, regretting words said or unsaid, actions taken or withheld. We ask ourselves repeatedly, “Why did this happen? What could I have done differently?”
The truth is, healing from this kind of pain isn’t just about time. Time, while a great healer, isn’t the sole factor. The real turning point comes when we acknowledge our own contributions to the estrangement.
This is not about blaming ourselves but rather understanding our role in the dynamic that led to the breakdown.
Acknowledgement is a powerful step toward healing. It involves introspection and honesty, looking at the situation from a place of learning rather than self-criticism. Were our patterns of behaviour contributors to the distance? Were their moments of neglect, prolonged or otherwise? Did we fail to listen or communicate?
By acknowledging these aspects, we don’t just shift blame onto ourselves. Instead, we recognize the puzzling intricacies of interaction that relationships are built on. It opens the door to understanding and ultimately, to forgiveness—of both ourselves and the other person.
Healing begins when we stop seeing ourselves solely as victims and start understanding our own humanity and fallibility. It’s a humbling process, but it’s also incredibly freeing. When we understand our part in the story, we can start to forgive, learn, and move forward.
Acknowledgement leads to healing because it transforms our pain into lessons. It allows us to see the estrangement not just as a loss, but as an opportunity for growth. This growth changes us, making us more compassionate and self-aware, and better prepared for future relationships.
In the end, healing from hurting is about reclaiming our power. By understanding and acknowledging our contributions to the past, we can fully embrace the present and look forward to a future where we are stronger, wiser, and more resilient. And as we heal, the hurt that once seemed eternal begins to fade, replaced by a deeper understanding of ourselves and the complex but beautiful nature of human connections.
So, wake up to celebrating life! Wake up to celebrating YOU!!
See you soon…
Anand
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